在職場當(dang)中，如(ru)果你(ni)(ni)對(dui)(dui)誰(shui)都坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)溝(gou)通，那(nei)你(ni)(ni)一定是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)很(hen)慘。但是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)如(ru)果我(wo)(wo)(wo)們跟誰(shui)都不坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)溝(gou)通，跟誰(shui)都成了(le)(le)勾心(xin)斗角(jiao)，又無法真正的(de)(de)解決(jue)問題。其(qi)實坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)需要心(xin)胸的(de)(de)，你(ni)(ni)比(bi)如(ru)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)最簡單的(de)(de)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)兩個人在一起，咱(zan)倆(lia)能(neng)(neng)(neng)不能(neng)(neng)(neng)互(hu)相給點意(yi)見。我(wo)(wo)(wo)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)你(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)矛盾，你(ni)(ni)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)我(wo)(wo)(wo)的(de)(de)矛盾，咱(zan)倆(lia)能(neng)(neng)(neng)不能(neng)(neng)(neng)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)的(de)(de)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)出(chu)來(lai)。其(qi)實他對(dui)(dui)方提(ti)的(de)(de)東西，你(ni)(ni)就知道對(dui)(dui)方是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)不坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)的(de)(de)。然(ran)后就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)針對(dui)(dui)一些(xie)矛盾或(huo)者說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)一些(xie)誤解，能(neng)(neng)(neng)不能(neng)(neng)(neng)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)。比(bi)如(ru)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)我(wo)(wo)(wo)之前(qian)就遇到過這種(zhong)情況，就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)以(yi)為你(ni)(ni)去領導面(mian)前(qian)給我(wo)(wo)(wo)告狀了(le)(le)，所(suo)以(yi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)一直認為是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)你(ni)(ni)告的(de)(de)，到底是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)不是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)，是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)吧，這就很(hen)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)。對(dui)(dui)方也(ye)(ye)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)，不好意(yi)思，我(wo)(wo)(wo)那(nei)天可能(neng)(neng)(neng)還真說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)了(le)(le)你(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)這個壞(huai)話了(le)(le)。當(dang)時我(wo)(wo)(wo)也(ye)(ye)覺(jue)得咱(zan)倆(lia)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)這種(zhong)競爭關系，所(suo)以(yi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)說(shuo)(shuo)(shuo)了(le)(le)你(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)，這就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)很(hen)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)，對(dui)(dui)吧？大家互(hu)相坦(tan)(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)(cheng)就是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)互(hu)相信任了(le)(le)，這樣的(de)(de)話就很(hen)容易成為盟友(you)。
但(dan)(dan)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)如(ru)果(guo)就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)明知道是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)你(ni)(ni)(ni)說的，你(ni)(ni)(ni)還不(bu)承認，這(zhe)(zhe)(zhe)就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)不(bu)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)。那(nei)(nei)就(jiu)認為你(ni)(ni)(ni)肯(ken)定不(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)的朋(peng)友(you)，肯(ken)定是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)的敵(di)(di)人(ren)，那(nei)(nei)就(jiu)以(yi)后(hou)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)你(ni)(ni)(ni)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)也不(bu)會(hui)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)。所(suo)以(yi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)們在(zai)職(zhi)(zhi)場當中跟(gen)(gen)(gen)人(ren)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)溝通，是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)兩(liang)個(ge)目標(biao)。第(di)一個(ge)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)為了(le)試探識別敵(di)(di)友(you)。對(dui)于我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)你(ni)(ni)(ni)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)也跟(gen)(gen)(gen)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)，這(zhe)(zhe)(zhe)種人(ren)就(jiu)可能是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)朋(peng)友(you)。但(dan)(dan)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)如(ru)果(guo)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)你(ni)(ni)(ni)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)不(bu)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)，并且還會(hui)給(gei)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)使壞(huai)，那(nei)(nei)你(ni)(ni)(ni)就(jiu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)敵(di)(di)人(ren)。那(nei)(nei)么(me)以(yi)后(hou)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)你(ni)(ni)(ni)溝通就(jiu)不(bu)會(hui)再坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)了(le)。第(di)二個(ge)目的，坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)為了(le)解決(jue)問題。我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)在(zai)歷(li)史(shi)上(shang)就(jiu)經常會(hui)有這(zhe)(zhe)(zhe)種情形，比如(ru)說我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)的領(ling)導之間(jian)發生(sheng)了(le)矛(mao)盾，互相斗爭了(le)很長時間(jian)，那(nei)(nei)么(me)最終不(bu)如(ru)把(ba)領(ling)導約出(chu)去一起喝點酒，非(fei)常坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)的把(ba)雙(shuang)方的問題提出(chu)來(lai)。這(zhe)(zhe)(zhe)樣的話更(geng)容易化敵(di)(di)為友(you)，更(geng)容易建立非(fei)常坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)的這(zhe)(zhe)(zhe)種溝通渠道，能夠讓你(ni)(ni)(ni)們在(zai)后(hou)續的工作中緊密(mi)的團結合作起來(lai)。所(suo)以(yi)大(da)家記住，我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)們在(zai)職(zhi)(zhi)場當中不(bu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)誰都坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)，而(er)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)們只(zhi)跟(gen)(gen)(gen)我(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)(wo)們的朋(peng)友(you)坦(tan)(tan)(tan)誠(cheng)。
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